• I am not denying at any level, that changing is hard, and difficult, and that it implies a huge amount of effort and dedication, but by choosing Nick Tasler’s article I am pursuing my tenacious and stubborn conviction that human beings are much more prone to adaptation that what we might think.

    Yes, there is a cultural narrative that support the biased evaluations of change, as Psychologists Ed O’Brien and Nadav Klein at the University of Chicago show in their recent experiments about the tipping point of perceiving change, but maybe it’s time to reconsider it. Some of the main points of the Tasler’s article below, but it's worth a full read.

  • Intellectual humility is a mindset. It doesn't come by default, as it challenges our sense of identity and our need to be right.

    Intellectual humility forces us to reconsider our particular and biased view of the world, the same way science does, by first, recognizing and owning our intellectual limitations, and prioritizing pursuing deeper knowledge, truth, and understanding.

    All our initial, automatic, responses and reactions to an external argument out of our belief system are shaped by our preferences, identities and prior opinions, always prioritizing our own needs.

    As we equate "being wrong" to put into question what we believe in, and by so, our own sense of identity, we feel threatened.

    The immediate reaction is to defend ourselves by being less concerned in knowing the truth than on being right, and to surround ourselves with people who think just like us.

    Those are Ego-defensive reactions.

    But this is a trap. Do we want to be right, or we want to know the truth?

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  • If you do not, your parents for sure will remember Wayne Dyer, and most probably they have read or at least heard from his first book, Your Erroneous Zones (1976), one of the best-selling books of all time, with an estimated 100 million copies sold to date.

    Although knowing that Dyer's nickname being the “father of motivation could immediately scare you back, and understanding that you are more than fed up with this positivism tendency of being the best version of yourself, I highly encourage you to read, and remember these 10 Pieces of Wisdom assigned to him. 
     
    On my humble opinion, they are not about looking at the bright side of life, they are about learning how to see, learning how to think.
     
     
  • "Thoughts determine feelings. Remember that. Make a note. Get a tattoo. This powerful idea goes back thousands of years to the Stoics".

    Feelings aren’t truth incarnate.

    Emotions are useful, but they are our biological suggestions, not commandments. Our brain is a pattern-recognition machine. It makes observations and starts forming rules about the world. It’s really good at this. It creates automatic thoughts based on previous experience to simplify our way through life.

    But sometimes our brain makes errors when it’s forming its rules, and the most common error is "better safe than sorry" acting as an overprotective parent.

    So maybe that automatic emotional reaction, that gut feeling isn't really adjusting to reality.

    And so? What to do?

    Listen.

    Eric's Barker approach on states on Aaron's Beck book ...