The fine Art of Not being Offended starts with the understanding that "every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date".
If we are able to recognize that people "do what they do from their own set of fears, conclusions, defenses and attempts to survive", we can arrive to the conclusion that even when the harm is intended directly at us, has most probably nothing to do with us.
Actually, it has more to do with all other times, and in particular the first few experiences, that the offender confronted a similar situation. We are all, at some point, just receptors of the projections and filters of each other’s life experiences, and often, we are just the recipient of their built-in reactions.
We just happen to be there at that particular time. More than probably, If it weren’t us, it would likely be someone...