When we're in a new place, we've all wondered where the bathroom is. And the automatic answer that comes to mind is: "Down the hall to your right". But this isn’t always the case. In fact, most of the time, to know where the bathroom is, we have to ask again or go and find it ourselves. This seems like a good analogy for a space where I can only give you some coordinates.

The way to it, however, you will have to discover yourself. My role is only to channel different ways of seeing and explaining how we function. I present them to you and raise questions so you can find your own answers or at the very least, start to go out and look for them.

When your emotions are managing you in a way they throw you off, we commonly fight back trying to block them out. That extra glass of wine -maybe a bottle- after a bad day at work? Binge eating, alcohol, drugs, gaming.... you name it. There is a full range of options out there to numb what you feel. To avoid what you feel. But unfortunately, shutting them (momentarily) doesn't make them go away. Instead of ignoring them, what about asking yourself,...how do you feel? Just notice, be aware. No need to react to it right away. Maybe the secret relies in not denying how you feel but in not identifying with what you feel. Emotions are biological suggestions, not undeniable truths to blindly rely on.  Emotions emerge as the result of that permanent never ending inner conversation we have with ourselves. We think we are what we think, what we feel. But we are not. As in the practice of meditation, it's not about stopping your thoughts, and consequently the emotions derived from that inner chatter, but just to change your relationship with them. Emotions want attention? Provide it to them. Sure, that's why they are so persistent and noisy. But after inviting them over for dinner, start questioning them. Put them on trial. It's about time not to be directed by your emotional patterns, but to wisely choose how you want to relate to them

When your emotions are managing you in a way they throw you off, we commonly fight back trying to block them out. That extra glass of wine -maybe a bottle- after a bad day at work? Binge eating, alcohol, drugs, gaming.... you name it. There is a full range of options out there to numb what you feel. To avoid what you feel. But unfortunately, shutting them

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we only learn when we repeat

Before we could enjoy a free, secular modern education, religions were the one that dominated pedagogy and literacy all over the planet. Religions were the ones that taught people basic concepts about ethics, purpose and the meaning of life.

Not saying here that religions ever knew the nuance of how the brain functioned (thank God!), but they had an extensive experience in how

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we will cross this bridge
Looks like it's widely assumed that the secret of success lies in deciding what to do, then making a plan for it and doing it. The problem is that it rarely works that way.

The PLANNING part is the easy one, at least the most consistent, but the DOING part is where it gets tricky. When you are trying to implement your plan, it either gets altered with interruptions and
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why life is not a journey

In a beautifully illustrated episode of After Skool, British philosopher Alan W. Watts eloquently states why life should not be considered a journey because by doing so we are missing the point the whole way along.

Curious in finding

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personal boundaries
We all know that we should keep them, nurture them, communicate them. We've all heard about the imperative necessity of saying NO. But the point here is to what to say no to. Before defending them, we should recognize what it means for each one of us "crossing the line." Getting to know where your red flags are, is the previous step to advocate them to the
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